Kiera Allen

Kiera Allen

You know it's never too late for a lot of things such as starting to watch that TV show everyone's been raving about, fast food and picking up your phone for something other than a social media post. It's never too late to get in touch with a friend. If it's been 10 to 15 years since you last spoke, things might get a little weird, but miracles are possible. I've witnessed friendships slowly diminish from lack of communication. I've seen this with other friendships, as we'll as some of my own. I've also witnessed the rise of a friendship that was a little rocky, until both parties just needed to sit down, talk things through and get on the same page. It's never too late to not take a friendship for granted. Even if a few months have passed, a little effort can go a long way. Here are a few reasons as to why keeping in touch is worth it.

It's polite

No one necessarily wants to be in a friendship where the two parties are close, and you're seeing each other maybe five times out of the week, and all of a sudden, that routine within the friendship gets interrupted. So, when that happens, for whatever circumstance, I think it's only polite to keep in touch. It's even going so far as to say it's common courtesy to check in on your friends, and vice versa. It's not that difficult to do, unless you truly don't want to do it. If your phone already is in your hand for a good percentage of the day, you can easily get in touch with an old friend. You can't watch snaps on Snapchat, post on Instagram, Twittter and Facebook, then have the nerve to not send a very quick and easy, "Hey, how've you been?" text. Throughout a certain amount of time, it could be seen as rude to just let a friendship hang in the air.

Reminders

You're friends with your friends for a reason right? If you have no contact with them whatsoever for a long amount of time, you might find yourself starting to tear the friendship down in your mind. You'll even put some imaginary good reasoning behind it, but this isn't a firing of a friend offense. It's just one of those things that might happen, (in some cases, not all), when you haven't seen a friend in a while. When you get reconnected and reacquainted, you'll remember why you became friends in the first place.

It's time well spent

Keeping in touch with a friend can be time well spent in the long run. If you keep in touch with a friend who may have moved away, there's obviously no guarantee you'll be able to see them as often as you did before, but it's all about communication. Communication is the key to any type of relationship. If you keep a healthy line of communication open, you'll be able to plan visits and other things like that. If a line of communication is merely danced around, who knows when you'll get to see each other? If that's happening, it could either be seen as a rough patch, or the friendship could be seen as a non-priority.

Taryn H., of Bradley, who will be leaving town for school in the near future, has her own take on keeping in touch with friends.

"I know leaving for school is going to be hard on friendships back home, but I will always do my best to keep in touch. I could always text, but my favorite way is FaceTime so I can get a more personal feel during the conversation."

Although Taryn has a plan for keeping in touch, she doesn't expect much from her friends.

"It sounds bad, but that's not the case. I know everyone is getting to that age where they are constantly busy, but I know that we can stay close. It's just a matter of having time in our busy schedules to communicate."

Now, if you're the only person in the friendship who is putting forth any effort at all, then you might want to think about firing this said "friend." Not solely on one offense, but if it's more of a repetitive occurrence. Make a pros and cons list, but do whatever you have to do because maybe, the friendship wasn't all that great to begin with.

Kiera Allen is a 2011 graduate of Bradley-Bourbonnais Community High School and a resident of Bradley. She also is the creator of the blog interviewsovercoffee.wordpress.com. She can be reached at kallen@daily-journal.com.