I awoke this morning in a different place. Everything is new. I rose around 3: a.m. and walked straight into a wall. I thought for a moment that I broke my nose. I did not. Everything is unfamiliar, yet this is our new home.

For those regular readers of this column, you know we sold our home of 26 years and moved to a downsized place. We love our new digs, yet old habits are hard to break. I’ll have to learn a new route to the restroom in the dark.

My biggest concern with this move was that Arlene would be happy and love our new place — and she does. Watching her unpack and arrange things has been a joy, but also a relief. Our first night here, she awoke in the middle of the night, sat straight up, looked around at the darkened room and said, “I’m going home now.”

I embraced her, coaxed her back onto her pillow and said, “We are home.”

She sprung back up, looked around the dark room and responded, “I don’t think so. I’m going home.”

It scared me. I tossed and turned the rest of the night, worried that we made a mistake. A few hours later, she was enthusiastically brushing her teeth and mumbling through the toothpaste that she loves our new place.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 — To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.

Change can be difficult to accept and tough on us all. We have the choice, like Don Quixote, to foolishly charge at windmills in protest, or to embrace the now and optimistically look forward and build a happy future. We choose the optimism of a new day, and I’m left wondering why others would choose differently.

Nothing in this world remains the same. As the saying goes, nothing in life is as consistent as change. Fighting change is like cursing the wind. There is nothing you can do to stop it. Instead, why not unfurl your sail and see where the wind might take you?

What have I learned through this process?

• Life is an adventure and not a place. Let go and enjoy the ride.

• A home is where you love others in your heart and where you lay your head at night.

• Home is not an outer building but a place within you.

• A home is your current place of residence, where you plan and launch your next adventure.

• A home is a state of mind and not a location. Arlene and I, after three nights, feel comfortable at home.

How can we feel at home after only 72 hours? The answer is simple. We made the decision to love this new place and we declared it as one. As I’ve said hundreds of times in this column, happiness is a choice. We could choose to be sad, angry or any negative emotion — or we can choose to be happy at our new home and optimistic about our future. We, of course, chose the latter and are open to and enthusiastic about the adventures to come.

So, now, we begin a new chapter of our lives together. Three weeks from now, my daughter and her family will be relocating back into this area. Soon, this place will be filled with laughter and the voices of Caleb and Noah. We could not be more thrilled with the prospects of our future.

We feel optimistic, happy and blessed. It is a choice we have made to feel this way.

What choices will you make this day about your life? Whatever they are, make sure one of your choices is to be happy in the present and optimistic about your future.

Those are always our choices.

Will you join us?

Gary W. Moore is a freelance columnist, speaker, and author of three books including the award-winning, critically acclaimed, “Playing with

the Enemy. He can be contacted through the Daily Journal at

editors@daily-journal.com.

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